Psychotherapy is a very unique experience that involves building a new relationship with someone with the goal of working collaboratively to help tackle issues of the human condition. It creates an opportunity to intimately examine your thoughts and feelings and to unwind and make sense of ideas that often control or influence our choices. I see anxiety and depression, the most common reasons people come to therapy, as symptoms of an individuals struggle to live life in a world where they are under constant assault to be what people or institutions want them to be. Its the caveat of the social contract; it inherently demands that we compromise and yield when it comes to our personal desires. We have to be something we may not choose to be at various times in our life to hold and keep relationships or achieve success in our work life. This naturally creates a strain on the self, and sometimes that can overwhelm us and we need outside help. Enter therapy.
How I Do This Work
My attitude and sentiment towards my work is a bit different than the average therapist. I strive to achieve the success my patients want and I am rarely willing to settle for less. A lot of therapists are content with merely being a supportive presence in their patients lives, and they will coast if their patients allow them too. This is something I never do in my work and it comes from my profound love of it. I find it lively and engaging and something that is constantly challenging my mind to up its game. I thrive on a good challenge, and I work hard to get my patients to let go of their belief that they lack self-efficacy to tackle their problems. I do this by helping them find within what they cannot see. That is why my tagline on this page is a quote of mine that I say as a practitioner: "I am not the expert on you, you are. My expertise is in helping you find yours." I am looking to build people up into what they can be.
My Philosophy on Being "Really Real" With My Patients
All of my patients have said that therapy with me feels like they are just interacting with another person, and not a robotic therapist with canned comments and statements. That is because I am what I like to call "really real" with my patients. It means that the person you experiences in session is who I am outside of the session. I'm not trying to act in a way that seems real. I believe this has contributed immensely to my success with patients and why they find they can bond with me so quickly. I don't act like a therapist. The way I have described it to others is that my patients experience me as I see myself: I am a human being who happens to be a therapist. As a result, my patients get to benefit from my great sense of humor. It is essential in life to be able to laugh even in the face of the greatest pain. Life is difficult. By its nature, it is a struggle, and the way I integrate humor comes naturally and in moments where I see it as appropriately valuable. The work of therapy takes time, and I try to find the ways that can keep someone engaged in a process that is difficult, challenging and scary. That is the reason more people dont go to therapy: fear. Therapy is the bravest thing you will ever do as a person because you are taking on the very things your mind has suppressed and pushed down because it viewed it as a threat. This is how you will grow and become stronger by working with me. I will show you exactly what you are truly capable of.